Mountain Ash

Michelle and I have been in England the past few weeks (April 2021) for bereavement. Mummy was diagnosed with terminal cancer eighteen months ago, and she lived bravely until she passed in March. We are grateful for her 84 years, and I’ve devoted two or three other entries to her.

Prince Philip, the Duke of Edinburgh, also passed a few weeks after Mummy. We join with all citizens of the UK and the Commonwealth countries in mourning and prayers; and we are sorrowful for the Queen’s loss of her life partner for the past 73 years.

We’ve learned this past month that grief in a pandemic is subdued. Muted even. With masks and social distancing and an outdoor 6-max wake during the longest of winters (emotional and physical - it snowed on April 5), pandemic restrictions suppress the ability to feel and smother expression.

Many of us have lost loved ones during the Year of Covid. I agree with Archbishop Justin Welby’s speculation that we are all experiencing a collective form of post-traumatic stress.

So it was unexpectedly refreshing to experience two grief “supports” this week.

The first appeared in a special weekend of reflective music on BBC Radio 2. It may have been 35 years since I had heard John Barry’s Main Theme from the movie soundtrack to Out of Africa. Somber yet soaring, Barry’s composition permitted me to feel and prompted me to express.

The second appeared in a special edition of Songs of Praise, devoted to the life of the Duke of Edinburgh. With choirs and congregations from across Great Britain, I was invited to join in singing along some of the great hymns of the faith into which I was born. Closing with a wonderful arrangement of Abide With Me, Songs of Praise drew me in to center.

The supports drew me into an inner silence, from which the following remembrance of Mary emerged. I’ve entitled the poem Mountain Ash with an alternative title Seance.

*** *** ***

You tell me

how all this came to be

Only then will I agree

that Mary did not call to me

From the rowan tree

at the easternmost thrust

Of the woodland trust

Mortal temptation

to run, to rush

Throughout the entire trust—

understandable as it is —

In ever-hurried life like this,

deserves resistance

One can always exercise

But to be mesmerized

is rare

As the total solar eclipse

so take some time

To ponder this

the breath of life

This renaissance

Of the hundreds

or thousands of trees in

A hidden bearsted wood

it cannot be

Merely coincidental

that I singled out

The mountain ash

For closer inspection

no, Rowan is a sash

Oft ascribed to man

But in this gentle

Interstellar moment

her spirit

Had another plan

An unexpected channel

to an undiscovered land

Waitrose green geometric

Fuzzy infant leaflets

Conspired to dial collect

from an unlisted number

In the thirty-acre wood

You tell me

how all this came to be

Only then will I agree

that Mary did not call to me

From the rowan tree—

(at the portal, near the gate)—

at the easternmost thrust

Of the woodland trust

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